Examples of Male Privilege from a Trans Guy’s Perspective

What happens when a trans man compares how he’s treated now as a man to how he was treated when he was viewed as female? The patriarchy that we live in and often don’t even notice becomes clear. Here are his observations, please read them! He wrote two articles, there was so much that he observed in how differently he was treated once people started seeing him as a white man (that they likely also presumed was straight and cisgender since that’s supposedly the “default”).



Of course this is one person’s experience and it doesn’t happen this way for everyone, and he mentions that. But it shows a problem that many people would like to pretend doesn’t exist.

Have you observed or experienced any of these privileges?

Open Letter to People who say Hurtful Things About Caitlyn Jenner

n-CAITYN-large570After seeing the horrible way people are talking about transgender people like Caitlyn Jenner this week, and some of it from people on my FB feed, I have to say something.
Your words have consequences. They affect other people. When you talk about transgender people and say they are just “men dressing like women” or that they aren’t brave for publicly being themselves, you show your ignorance of the issues they face as well as a lack of empathy for the incredible hardships and social stigma they have to deal with every single day. You don’t realize that you are part of the reason why coming out of the closet makes them brave. I’m not trying to put anyone down for their beliefs, only pointing out that the way those beliefs are being expressed is causing immense pain to others. You can believe what you want without using those beliefs as a stick to beat others with, without putting people down for not fitting your religion’s standards or ideals.
Yes, I’m mad. I’m mad because I see how frustrating this is for my friends who happen to be transgender, among many other wonderful things, but people only see their gender identity and not the amazing complete person they are. I’m mad because people think that they can discredit and belittle someone’s gender identity because they think their religion is against it. I’m mad because I just read about another transgender teen who committed suicide because of these hurtful attitudes, and yet another transgender person that someone tried to shove in front of a subway train just for being different.
Your words have power. You can build people up or tear them down. You may not mean to be hurting them, you might think you’re being “righteous” by saying they are bad or their identity isn’t valid, but when you talk about transgender people in hurtful ways YOU are contributing to a society that treats them terribly socially, resulting in a 66% risk of violence for them.
Your religion is no excuse to hurt or demean others with your words and attitudes. Saying their gender identity doesn’t exist, or that it’s evil, is beyond hurtful. If you don’t understand it, then be honest about it and start educating yourself. But PLEASE stop perpetuating the stigmas that are literally causing teenagers to kill themselves and causes people to assault and hate transgender people. It needs to stop, and change begins with every one of us.

A few of the tragic results of your “freedom of speech”:


Hurtful versions of Christianity: Defend sexual abusers as long as they pray a prayer and say they’re sorry, but demean and invalidate people with a gender identity or sexual orientation that they don’t understand or approve of. Even if it drives them to depression and suicide. As long as they don’t appear to condone “sin”, who cares who they hurt with their words and actions.

Caitlyn Jenner- Why She (yes, SHE) is a Hero.

11425426_10152861733561863_8952373836484850202_nLots has happened since Caitlyn Jenner was revealed to the world. For those who somehow haven’t heard yet, Bruce Jenner is no more- now she is Caitlyn Jenner, a beautiful transgender woman who has endured much scrutiny and hatred since she decided to step outside of people’s comfort zones to be herself. She’s a hero- but not everyone feels that way. Lots of people have been making incredibly hurtful comments saying she isn’t heroic at all.

“People who are transgender — yes, including Caitlyn — open themselves up to horrifying levels of hate and discrimination just for the chance to be themselves. The rate of violence against transgender people remains truly staggering in the U.S., as is the lack of understanding within the larger American community about what transgender people go through every day of their lives.

In 2015, the decision to open yourself up to hate for an opportunity to feel comfortable in your own skin is one of the bravest things you can do….

…Of course, this is not to say other people…… are undeserving of an award for their own bravery. Of course they are. But prejudice in this country against the transgender community is undeniable. The vast majority of us cannot and should not pretend to understand how terrifying it must be to come to terms with the fact that what you see in the mirror does not match what you feel in your heart. And we shouldn’t act like we do either.” http://huff.to/1IpbNQF

You think openly transgender people aren’t brave? They face a 66% risk of violence, they are one of the highest at risk minority groups right now. People literally try to assault or kill them just for existing, and that’s not counting the intense social stigma that constantly beats them down.

Caitlyn Jenner is a hero, and anyone who thinks otherwise doesn’t understand how much bravery it takes to be open about being a transgender person. There are many kinds of heroes, and people who stand up against social oppression and stigma are among them. Try walking in their shoes, then say they aren’t brave!! You can have your personal beliefs and still acknowledge that what she did was scary and difficult. You can have your beliefs and still stop saying that transgender people are confused or messed up, because they’re not. You’re not in their heads and bodies, you do NOT get to judge them or assume you know better than they.

Yes I’m mad. I’m mad because I see articles about yet another transgender teen that killed themselves in despair, or another transgender person being assaulted out of prejudice, but people keep saying awful things about them and stoking the fires of prejudice and hatred. Your words have consequences. Belittling or demeaning them causes them more harm than you can possibly imagine. It may literally contribute to their deaths. It’s that serious.

Stop the judgment. Stop the stigma. Stop letting your religion override your compassion and empathy for others. Listen to their stories instead of telling them that they’re just “a man dressed as a woman”, because that is incredibly hurtful and untrue.

Here is a great article for those who would like to understand a bit more of what it’s like to be a transgender person.


And some of the countless examples of violence against transgender people.