When the Hateful Accuse Us of Hatefulness (link)

I almost cried reading this article. We’re allowed to be angry. We’re allowed to share our anger and our stories about the hurt we’ve endured and still endure. We’re allowed to point out oppressive attitudes and actions when we see it. We’re allowed to express our anger and hurt even if it makes our oppressors uncomfortable. After all, their momentary discomfort at our expressions of joy and pain is nothing compared to the generations of oppression they have inflicted and still inflict upon us.

Just because we won this single battle doesn’t mean the fight for equality is over, nor does it erase the unimaginable harm they’ve done to us in the name of “love”. We’re allowed to make sure that our immense struggles are not forgotten or toned down to make our oppressors feel better about themselves. It is not hateful for us to show them how they’ve hurt us, to make them aware of the damage they’ve caused and are still causing. It is not hateful for us to be angry at the terrible way we’ve been treated, or to celebrate a victory over their oppression of us. It is not hateful to recover from oppression and live our lives in ways that our oppressors dislike. 

Although I personally don’t agree with the term “fundagelical” to describe anti-gay Christians (I find it unnecessarily abrasive and would personally use another term), after how I’ve been treated and my LGBTQ friends have been treated and countless generations of LGBTQ people have been treated, I think a strongly worded article in reply is more than justified.

But I’m not going to play nice here: the Christians opposing LGBTQ rights have rivers of blood flowing down their hands.

Every single demand that we shut up, give them “respect” (again, meaning: silence and an allowance to keep acting as if they won rather than lost), and stop being “hateful” is being made while they peek at us through bloody fingers. Their hands are so close to their faces that they can’t even see the blood streaming down their wrists.

They have turned their gazes away from the lives they have destroyed, the children they have murdered and abandoned, the bullying they have done, or the constant stream of filthy smears they have made against a marginalized group–marginalized, remember, because of their hateful pseudo-love–that never actually posed a threat to anything of theirs. They can’t see any of that. When this information gets shared with them, they try to silence the messenger–because the message runs so contrary to their crafted and curated self-image. Their emotional paychecks depend on seeing themselves as the “good guys”: the embattled paladins of truth and justice fighting against a monstrous and agelessly-evil enemy. The truth would destroy that image of themselves they hold so dear–and would put into question all the other false ideas they hold. But all of this is their problem and not ours.

Until they wash their hands and get cleaned up, they have no right at all to try to shut anyone up for pointing out their error. We however have every right to talk about that error, and we will continue to do so.

We are not being hateful, and we will not be shamed into silence by those culture-warrior Christians feeling stung over their loss.***

We are not being hateful, any more than they were ever being loving.

Read the whole article here: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/excommunications/2015/07/when-the-hateful-accuse-us-of-hatefulness/#sthash.C3pGWfEH.dpuf

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“Oklahoma bill would put an end to marriage licenses”

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“Oklahoma state Rep. Todd Russ, R-Cordell, has filed a bill that would put an end to marriage licenses in the state. Under his plan, a religious official would sign a couple’s marriage certificate, which would then be filed with the court clerk.”

Read the whole thing here:

http://newsok.com/oklahoma-bill-would-put-an-end-to-marriage-licenses/article/5386633/?page=2

They don’t want to do their job if everyone has the right to marry, so now they won’t do any marriages at all. What happened to doing your job and not judging the people who come to you for legal government services? They have no business judging the personal lives of people who come to their office for official government services, and marriage is a legal contract offered by our government.

In 2004, Oklahoma voters approved, 1,075,216 to 347,303, a constitutional amendment defining marriage as being between a man and a woman.

“Oklahoma voted overwhelmingly against same-sex marriage, and yet the Supreme Court stuck it down our throats,” Russ said.

How is this any different from when county clerks refused to marry interracial couples back in the day? There was a time when interracial marriages were also opposed by the majority. The majority shouldn’t be ruling on a minority’s basic human rights! Would you want your marital rights to be decided by the mob?

And by the way, if this bill gets passed, it would require atheists to have a religious official sign their marriage certificate instead of a judge. How is that fair to atheists?

“Marriages are not supposed to be a government thing anyway,” he said Wednesday.

Oh really? Then maybe we should take away YOUR right to all the 1,000+ legal benefits and protections that marriage offers in our country and see how YOU like a non-government version of marriage.

But this is what so often happens when a hardcore fundamentalist person gets into the government: It’s ok for him to try to push his religion on other people, and then cry “persecution” when he’s not allowed to do it. This pastor/state rep is upset that he’s not allowed to discriminate and marginalize a minority group.

I feel so bad for you, Mr. Russ. I can’t imagine how HARD it is to not be allowed to force your religion on other people. It must be so traumatic for you and your staff to have to actually render legal government services to people who don’t believe the same way you do.

Yes, I am pissed off. This is getting more and more ridiculous. But what pisses me off even more is that atheists are so often blamed for the problems in this country. The US mess is a collective issue, and oppressive religious people like this are making it way worse by constantly making us fight over women’s reproductive rights and marriage equality. If they stopped trying to regulate other people’s lives and focused on the economy and other issues, maybe we could actually fix some things!

End rant.

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