Preserving a woman’s right to choose doesn’t mean that they don’t sometimes experience pain or remorse from abortions- especially if they were pressured into it or their care provider was not very good- or that birth control doesn’t sometimes affect women with side effects. Every woman is different emotionally and biologically, and every situation is different- that’s why they need to be able to choose for themselves and also be aware of any risks. They need to make the best decision for THEM- sometimes that means birth control or abortion, sometimes it doesn’t. Prepare them, educate them, let them grieve and share their stories even when they’re not positive- but don’t take away their right to make their own decisions.
Not every woman has the same experiences. For some women, having an abortion was ok- a bit emotional, but not a depression causing event. For others, it was their only option and without it their lives would have been much worse. For others, it was a very traumatic event that they regret. ALL of these women’s stories are valuable and should be heard.
Hopefully someday we will live in a world where a woman’s choice is not judged, where she can be fully educated and prepared before making any choice to lessen distress and harm. The point of feminism is that every woman’s choice and experience is valuable, each voice should be heard, and every woman should be free to choose her own path.